Further Reading + Resources
I recommend checking out these resources, books, essays, and organizations.
Download the free No More Mediocre discussion guide for book clubs and buddy reading.
Relationships, Equity, and Communication
Books
Chen, Angela. Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex. Beacon Press, 2020.
Franco, Marisa G. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. Putnam, 2022.
Gottman, John, and Nan Silver. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Harmony Books, 1999.
hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. William Morrow, 2000.
———. The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love. Washington Square Press, 2004.
Rodsky, Eve. Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live). Putnam, 2019.
Spade, Dean. Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together. Algonquin Books, 2025.
Tawwab, Nedra Glover. Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. TarcherPerigee, 2021.
Wong, Alice, ed. Disability Intimacy: Essays on Love, Care, and Desire. Vintage Books, 2024.
Online Resources
Fresh Starts Registry: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com
The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com
A Guide to Relationship Anarchy: https://www.therelationshipanarchist.com/relationship-anarchy-guide
National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org
Domestic Labor, Care Work, and Capitalism
Books
Bhattacharya, Tithi, ed. Social Reproduction Theory: Remapping Class, Recentering Oppression. Pluto Press, 2017.
Garbes, Angela. Essential Labor: Mothering as Social Change. Harper Wave, 2022.
Hackman, Rose. Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim Our Power. Flatiron Books, 2023.
hooks, bell. Ain’t I a Woman? Black Women and Feminism. South End Press, 1981.
Jaffe, Sarah. Work Won’t Love You Back: How Devotion to Our Jobs Keeps Us Exploited, Exhausted, and Alone. Bold Type Books, 2021.
Nadasen, Premilla. Care: The Highest Stage of Capitalism. Haymarket Books, 2023.
Piepzna-Samarasinha, Leah Lakshmi. Care Work: Dreaming Disability Justice. Arsenal Pulp Press, 2018.
Essays
Nadasen, Premilla. “The Care Deficit.” Dissent, Fall 2016. https://www.dissentmagazine.org/article/care-deficit-hta-domestic-worker-organizing-history/.
Bhattacharya, Tithi. “How Not to Skip Class: Social Reproduction of Labor and the Global Working Class.” Viewpoint Magazine, October 31, 2015. https://viewpointmag.com/2015/10/31/how-not-to-skip-class-social-reproduction-of-labor-and-the-global-working-class/.
Organizations
CareForce: https://fairplaypolicy.org/careforce
Caring Across Generations: https://caringacross.org
More Perfect Union: https://perfectunion.us
National Domestic Workers Alliance: https://www.domesticworkers.org
Service Employees International Union: https://www.seiu.org
Raising the Next Generation
Books
Brown, Christia Spears. Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes. Ten Speed Press, 2014.
Conaboy, Chelsea. Mother Brain: How Neuroscience Is Rewriting the Story of Parenthood. Henry Holt and Co., 2022.
Madison, Megan, and Jessica Ralli, Jessica. We Care: A First Conversation About Justice. Illustrated by Sharee Miller. Rise × Penguin Workshop, 2022.
Schenwar, Maya, and Kim Wilson, eds. We Grow the World Together: Parenting Toward Abolition. Haymarket Press, 2024.
Slice, Jessica. Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World. Beacon Press, 2025.
Sugarman-Li, Lori. Our Home: The Love, Work, and Heart of Family. Illustrated by María Perera. The Collective Book Studio, 2024.
Tamaki, Jillian. Our Little Kitchen: A Board Book. Groundwood Books, 2020.
Whippman, Ruth. BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity. Harmony, 2024.
Feminism and Social Justice
Books
Beck, Koa. White Feminism: From the Suffragettes to Influencers and Who They Leave Behind. Atria Books, 2021.
Callaci, Emily. Wages for Housework: The Feminist Fight Against Unpaid Labor. Seal Press, 2025.
hooks, bell. Feminism Is for Everybody: Passionate Politics. South End Press, 2000.
Kendall, Mikki. Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot. Viking, 2020.
Lorde, Audre. Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches. Crossing Press, 1984.
Piepzna-Samarasinha, Leah Lakshmi. The Future Is Disabled: Prophecies, Love Notes, and Mourning Songs. Arsenal Pulp Press, 2022.
Vergès, Françoise. A Decolonial Feminism. Pluto Press, 2021.
Ward, Jane. The Tragedy of Heterosexuality. New York University Press, 2020.
Online Resources
(divorcing) White Supremacy Culture: https://www.whitesupremacyculture.info
Toi Marie: https://www.toimarie.com/
Organizations
Disability Visibility Project: https://disabilityvisibilityproject.com
Equimundo: https://www.equimundo.org
Community and Future Visioning
Books
Birdsong, Mia. How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community. Balance, 2020.
Hayes, Kelly, and Mariame Kaba. Let This Radicalize You: Organizing and the Revolution of Reciprocal Care. Haymarket Books, 2023.
Kimmerer, Robin Wall. Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge, and the Teachings of Plants. Milkweed Editions, 2013.
Klinenberg, Eric. Palaces for the People: How Social Infrastructure Can Help Fight Inequality, Polarization, and the Decline of Civic Life. Crown, 2019.
Krawec, Patty. Becoming Kin: An Indigenous Call to Unforgetting the Past and Reimagining Our Future. Broadleaf Books, 2022.
Lucido Johnson, Sophie. Kin: The Future of Family. Atria Books, 2025.
Solnit, Rebecca. Hope in the Dark: Untold Histories, Wild Possibilities. Nation Books, 2004.
Spade, Dean. Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next). Verso Books, 2020.
Organizations
Next River: https://www.nextriver.org
New Economy Coalition: https://neweconomy.net
Project NIA: https://project-nia.org
