Who I Am
I’m interested in the invisible things shaping our lives. The patterns we normalize, the labor we overlook, the stories we inherit, and the work we can do to build the future we deserve.
As @thatdarnchat, I’ve built a community of over one million people across platforms by putting words to the dynamics so many people were feeling but could not yet name. I’ve helped popularize concepts like weaponized incompetence and the nag paradox, bringing language to relationship patterns that often hide in plain sight.
I’m the author of No More Mediocre and co-host of Time to Lean, where I explore what it actually takes to build equitable, sustainable relationships and communities. My work has been featured in publications such as Business Insider, Good Housekeeping, and HuffPost, and I’m regularly cited as a voice on domestic labor, the mental load, care culture, and the stories we tell about connection and relationships.
Before this work became public-facing, I spent over a decade as an educator, specializing in individualized instruction, accessibility, and meeting people exactly where they are. I also come from a background in art, writing, community organizing, and gardening. I’ve spent most of my life extremely online, building blogs, newsletters, communities, and digital spaces long before “content strategy” was a job title.
I am a translator. I take big, often overwhelming ideas and turn them into language people can use, whether that means helping someone understand what is happening in their own home, supporting an organization in communicating with more clarity, or turning a complex idea into something people can finally grasp, share, and act on.
I’m also a mother of two, a gardener, an audiobook enthusiast, and a neighbor who believes care is both a collective responsibility and a powerful force for change. You’ll find me skipping small talk for deep conversations, listening to audiobooks in the garden, or blasting Mariah Carey with the windows down.
I believe in the magic of fairy gardens, the joy of knick-knacks, and the importance of regularly eating popsicles on the porch.
If there’s something I care about, I’m all in—curious, direct, and relentlessly hopeful.
