Who is Laura Danger?

Laura Danger is a licensed educator, domestic equity advocate, author of No More Mediocre, and content creator known for helping people name and navigate the invisible labor in relationships and households. Her work focuses on care, communication, and systemic change. Best known for popularizing the term “weaponized incompetence” and the “nag paradox”.

What does Laura Danger do?

Laura teaches, facilitates workshops, and creates content to help people understand and address imbalances in household labor, mental load, and care work. She also collaborates with organizations to build tools and resources for more equitable relationships. Interested in collaborating? Reach out!

What is No More Mediocre about?

No More Mediocre: A Call to Reimagine Our Relationships and Demand More is Laura’s upcoming book that offers a practical framework for transforming relationships. It combines personal insight with cultural critique to help readers build partnerships rooted in clarity, alignment, and shared care.

Where can I find Laura Danger online?

Follow Laura at @ThatDarnChat on Instagram and TikTok, subscribe to her Substack at thatdarnchat.substack.com, and listen to her podcast Time to Lean on all major platforms.

Can I work with Laura Danger?

You can reach out via the contact page to inquire about speaking, press, or podcast appearances. Laura has spoken at national conferences, corporate events, schools, and nonprofit organizations.

Laura occasionally works with individuals, couples, and organizations to support culture change and relationship growth. Make sure you’re subscribed to her Substack to be notified of her offerings.

What is weaponized incompetence in relationships?

Weaponized incompetence is when someone avoids tasks by pretending they’re incapable. Laura Danger helped popularize this term to describe gendered dynamics in relationships and household labor.

What is the “nag paradox”?

The nag paradox refers to the dynamic where one partner has to repeatedly remind or manage tasks, only to be seen as controlling or overbearing. Laura uses this concept to reframe conversations around fairness and alignment.

How can I talk to my partner about the mental load?

Laura offers scripts, tools, and workshops to help couples have productive conversations about emotional labor and shared responsibilities. Listen to the Time to Lean Podcast, follow her on Substack, and make sure to preorder her book!

Why does care work matter?

Care work—like parenting, emotional support, and household tasks—is essential to community health and well-being. Laura’s work highlights how care is undervalued and often invisibly gendered and racialized. You can preorder her book, No More Mediocre, and check out her recommended reading for even more on this topic!

What kind of workshops does Laura lead?

Laura offers public and private workshops on topics like equitable partnerships, the mental load, neurodivergent needs, and divesting from burnout culture. Interested in a mental load workshop? Laura’s expertise is in tailoring learning experiences to meet the learner. Let’s collaborate!

Does Laura Danger offer resources for schools or educators?

Yes! Laura’s background as a licensed teacher informs her education work, and she collaborates on curriculum, professional development, and other learning experiences. Check out this mental load curriculum for kids and young people, developed in collaboration with Eve Rodsky and the Fair Play Institute.

How can I stay updated on Laura’s work?

Subscribe to thatdarnchat.substack.com and follow @ThatDarnChat on social media to receive updates about new tools, events, and book news.